3 Vital Relationships in your spiritual Journey


3 vital relationships in your spiritual journey.

I’ve had the luxury that not many people have. I was raised around great men of God. These men were not perfect but they were pretty close. My grandfather was my first pastor and that enabled me to see ministry from behind the scenes at an early age. My father was in ministry for a time as well. My stepfather became my second pastor and I was old enough to really understand the depth of this calling. I understand that I have a unique heritage and spiritual background but I feel like this gives me a certain insight. I believe that there are three God ordained relationships that every believer(lay or minister) needs to have outside of their family and friends.

The first relationship is your pastor. This should go without saying but in our culture today we need to be reminded of it. A pastor is an integral part of proper spiritual development. There are many descriptions of what a pastor is and a good Google search will help you with that. I only want to illuminate the importance of the role in your life.

True anointing only flows from the top down.

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is For brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious oil upon the head, Running down on the beard, The beard of Aaron, Running down on the edge of his garments. It is like the dew of Hermon, Descending upon the mountains of Zion; For there the LORD commanded the blessing— Life forevermore.”
Psalms 133:1-3 NKJV

Find a Pastor that you can trust and submit yourself to his spiritual authority. Find a Pastor that you can receive his word as the Word of God for your life. Find a Pastor who loves God and loves people and is not trying to build their own kingdom. Your Pastor is the ultimate authority in your walk with God. A true pastor will understand this authority and use it wisely and never for their own selfish gain.

There is so much more to add on the relationship with your pastor but that will have to save for another day. But your key responsibility in this relationship is to trust and follow the leading of your pastor. If you cannot do that then you need to find a pastor that you can follow and trust.

The second relationship that every believer needs to cultivate is that of a mentor. Your pastor may not be your mentor. This is a totally different relationship. A mentor closely resembles that of a teacher. I remember during high school I had to take AG. AG class was mostly guys that wanted to get out of choir or some other elective. In AG, I learned how to weld…funny I know, I knew how to weld. But my teacher was really hands on, which meant he taught us a few concepts in a class room but most of our time was spent in the shop where he modeled those concepts. Then eventually he allowed us to participate and he watched. If we had questions, he answered them.

A mentor is someone that is doing what you desire to do but simply has been successful at it and desires to help you. Rarely do mentors initiate this type of relationship, the mentee is responsible for this. Find someone that is in or close to your circle that has been there and done that. They can help you navigate some of the tricky situations of life. Your responsibility in this relationship is to be eager to learn, take what they say and do your best to apply it to your life.

The third relationship that every believer needs to cultivate is that of a mentee. This is a person that is being guided by the mentor. It doesn’t matter where you are on the spectrum of spirituality you can be a mentor to someone. Every believer needs to have someone investing in them and then investing into someone else.

The key thing to remember in this relationship is that you are called to build up faith and encourage.

“when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also. Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
II Timothy 1:5-7 NKJV

It’s vital that you have these three relationships in your life if you desire to fulfill God’s purpose in your life. Be prayerful regarding these relationships, don’t rush into them. Make sure you keep your spirit right and receive correction well so that you can give correction well.