Don’t do ministry alone.
I’ve been cooking a lot lately, not because I have to but because I enjoy it. I never thought I would say that but I do. A few days ago my wife asked me to wait on her to get home from work so we could cook together. I was a little offended at first, I was all like, “You don’t think I cook good enough for y’all?” She was sweet and said, “Nothing like that, I just want to cook with you.” So I waited until she got home and we cooked together, we had a great time. It was a lot more fun and it tasted better as well.
This goes against my nature.
I’m naturally a loner. I’m okay with my own brain, and I can get lost in my own mind. I tend to get things done quicker by myself. This spills over into other areas of my life as well. I know what I can do, I like the simplicity of it. I battle with the Lone Ranger mentality.
But in ministry and in living for God in general, being the lone ranger is not healthy.
It reminds me of the saying that if you want to go fast go alone but if you want to go far take someone with you.
Let someone in. Pick up the phone and call someone. Drive a few miles and have coffee with a friend. Don’t get so caught up with the work of the ministry that you forget that you need healthy relationships in your life.
Ministry is a silent killer, I mean if you are silent it will drain you. Form healthy relationships with those that are your contemporaries. They need it just as much as you need it. Attach yourself to elders that will invest in you. Invest in those that feel a call into ministry. These folks will become your family.
Many times once you take a step into your true calling, there is a separation between you and your biological extended family. Sometimes it’s because of distance and other times it’s because your thinking and priority has changed. You need others that can step in and be a support to you and your family.
I’m still figuring this out. I don’t have all the answers. But I do know that you shouldn’t do ministry by yourself.